Stoicism is one of the most important qualities people with a “winner” mentality have.
Highly successful people are often branded as hard working, intelligent, strong, talented and loads of other attractive qualities. People who are less successful sometimes get labeled as lazy, incompetent, quick to give up and many other negative attributes.
In reality, you can find all the positive traits used to describe “winners” in many so-called “losers”. Many unsuccessful people are hardworking, intelligent, strong, and talented. In many cases, “ability” is not what stops people from becoming successful in life. What stops most people is their lack of stoicism.
The dictionary describes stoicism as: “the ability to endure pain or hardship without the display of feelings or complaint.” In other words, stoicism is the ability to be comfortable with discomfort.
Stoicism is what allows some people to hit the gym almost every day and get into amazing physical shape. Stoicism is what allows people to move to a new city where they don’t know anyone. Stoicism is what allows people to seduce someone who is more attractive than anyone they’ve ever met. Stoicism is what allows people to do what needs to be done to achieve a goal rather than doing what feels most comfortable, or socially acceptable.
People with a “winner” personality are willing to leave their comfort zones and risk pain, discomforted, rejection, failure and hardship. And furthermore, they endure this discomfort without losing their confidence or allowing it to destroy them. This is ultimately why winners win and losers lose.
The person with the loser mentality seeks comfort, familiarity, conformity, approval and permission. These people expect quick fixes and easy solutions. These people give up on things if they don’t pay off right away. These people follow the crowd and want to fit in at all costs. These people have a deep fear of the rejection and disapproval of others. These people have an extremely low tolerance for emotional or physical discomfort.
With a low tolerance for physical discomfort, its very hard to be a regular at the gym and get any results. Its also very hard to stick to a diet or deal with occasional hunger.
With a low tolerance for emotional discomfort, its very hard to take in new information that conflicts with your current belief system. And thus, learning and mentally maturing with age can be stunted.
A low tolerance for emotional discomfort also means a person might be easily controlled by social pressure, family pressure, and societal pressure.
The person with a high level of stoicism has the ability to be truly self-accepting. They don’t need everyone’s approval or love. They only need to achieve their goals and passions. This is what propels them higher than others to become leaders and eventually “winners”.